by Martha Tobin
Lots of people have a ‘pile of denial’ on their dining room table, in bedroom corners, in closets, etc. For some, there might be a few piles.
Here are 8 examples of ‘piles of denials’:
- Memorabilia from a deceased family member (i.e. photos, letters, old greeting cards)
- Items you might be holding onto for someone else (i.e. until your son/daughter have their own place)
- Items that don’t have a rightful place to ‘live’ in your home (i.e. wall art but no space or unsure where to hang it)
- Unpacked boxes/bins that have followed you from your last move
- Family heirlooms that you don’t feel right letting go of (i.e. jewelry, dinner sets, silverware)
- Clothing that you’re keeping in case you lose or gain weight
- Your kids old toys to pass on to grandchildren you might have
- Specialized cooking utensils in case you make that dish again
The problem with these items is that when left unchecked, they tend to expand and start cluttering your living spaces. And buying more shelving, more baskets or more storage bins is rarely the solution. Instead review these items and ask yourself if they are adding to your life right now. If they are find them a place to ‘live’ in your home.
Our homes only have a finite amout of space and our lives only have a finite amount of years. Surround yourself with items that support the person you are now. The past is no longer, the future is not guaranteed but your present is right here, right now. Live the life you want in a home that supports and empowers you.
